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Milestones

We had one of the big ones this week. Not so much for Emily as for me, if I'm honest. We've been having some settling in sessions at a child minder for a few weeks now and today was the first day I was to leave her there alone. I was almost sick with worry yesterday and I came very close to backing out last night. Just didn't think I could do it, especially as I don't technically feel I need to.

I say I don't need to because I don't work. But realistically I work far longer hours than I would in most full-time jobs. I work 07:00 - 23:00 (19:00 - 23:00 is when I cram in as many household chores as I possibly can, and only don't count nights too because she usually sleeps through them), and that includes weekends as well. Save for that time when I had to go to hospital with an eye injury and Emily stayed with my sister, I have never "handed" her over to anyone else.

And it was for that exact reason we decided to do it. It would be good for her, to socialize with others, and it would be good for me, to have a few hours off every week (even if just to fit in appointments and other things like that!)

So this morning came and we got dressed and I told her she'd be going to Iveta's (she only goes for three hours) and that she'd be having lots of fun and she seemed to be excited about it. When we got there, she eagerly toddled in, said hi to Iveta and started playing with another little girl who was already there.

Then after a while, I summoned the courage. I went over to Emily and explained that I would be leaving for a short while but would be back and she will have lots of fun playing with her friends in the meantime.

She turned around to me, completely unfazed, waved and said "Bye, Mummy!"

What's an emotion that is a mixture of relief, surprise and pride? I'm not sure a word exists, but if it does, that's what I was, and am.

I spent the next few hours calmly browsing shops on the High Street (I refused to go home and do chores or waste time, this needed to be ME TIME), and then I stopped for a drink and a snack in a tiny cafe that I love but cannot get into with a buggy! Perfect.

When I went back to Iveta's to pick her up, Emily eagerly greeted me (but carried on playing) and Iveta informed me there'd been no tears at all. I am slightly in awe of my little girl's confidence, I am so proud of her and also of myself (I'm obviously doing something right). Emily has been in a terrific mood since we got back, very chatty, saying her new friend's name and trying to tell me about all the things they did this morning. It's obvious that it's already done her a world of good, and any doubts I had have been swept away in a matter of hours.

I feel like I've done something big today, for both of us. I'm so relieved and so very happy.

(The picture is of her on our way back home. Tired, but very pleased with herself!)


[Update: A couple of weeks later, Emily had become very clingy and was waking up several times at night for cuddles and resettling would take up to two hours. Knowing we would be leaving for Malta in a few short months and this was therefore a very temporary thing, we eventually decided to keep Emily home as it just didn't seem worth the upset for such a short time. We will later focus on helping her settle in a place in Malta that she will be able to enjoy for more than a few months.]

8 comments:

  1. So proud of you Emily! and so happy for you Clare xx

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  2. Very happy for both of you, darling xxx

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  3. try and keep this and print it...!!! remeber next time she might be a little emotional...cause she will have understood the process keep smiling and encouraging yourself and her. You did it once together you will do it again. hopefully you won;t have tearful days but if they are keep reminding yourself that she indeed is there for exactly that reason to enjoy and have a brilliant time. Ivetta is fantastic she loves kids and kids know that.Laos what I like about her that she knows how to be fair and kids also understand that. She should have had about 10 kids of her own as well cause she is such a wonderful mum too...I have known her now for 5 years and I can say she has amazed me for her determination, her soft and caring heart and her very very diligent and driven self too. She is clean and soooo friendly. I most like her when she forgets about the adults and chats to the kids.....and laughs with them....as though she forgot she was an adult and there were other adults in the room. I am gona miss her so much and so will Zackie....lets hope we can go back at least ad hoc!

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  4. Go Emily! And well done to you! The best thing you did was use that time for yourself.

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  5. Haha you handled that really well!!! :) Mum always tells me the story of when she left me at Kinder the first time, had spent weeks telling me that "no mummies are allowed, only big girls" etc etc... when it came down to it I had exactly the same reaction as Emily, but mum was in tears hahah!!! :)

    Good on both you and Emily for being wonderful independent woman/girl full of love and confidence :) mwa!

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